Life After Divorce for Men Over 40

Over the past two decades, the divorce rate has fallen considerably among married people between the ages of 25 and 39. In contrast, the Pew Research Center reports that the divorce rate is actually increasing for people over the age of 40. In the modern world, getting divorced after 40 is normal. Many other people have gone through a similar experience. Still, moving forward with life is not always easy—even if separation is the right decision for both partners. Here, our Monroe, NC divorce attorneys provide guidance for men who are preparing for life after divorce. 

The First Step: Take Time to Sort Out Your Priorities 

To best move forward after a divorce, men should set aside some time to sort out their priorities. Know your priorities in terms of your family life, your professional life, and your personal life. Creating a list of your own priorities—potentially for the first time in many years—can be a freeing experience, but it can also be difficult to get started. 

No Single Defining Characteristic—But Most Men Over 40 are Losing an Established Routine

Every divorce is unique. There is no single defining characteristic of men over 40 going through a divorce. Some are more than ready to move on. They have no desire to look back. Others may be completing an emotionally raw, difficult separation and they may still have familial obligations. 

While the post-divorce experience can vary widely, most men do share something in common: They are losing their established routine. While this is less so amongst men in their 20s and 30s, most men in their 40s and 50s have a long-standing daily routine that has been disrupted by the divorce. 

The Importance of Developing New Patterns that Provide a Fulfilling Life

One of the primary challenges of moving past divorce is creating new patterns that promote a happy, healthy, fulfilling life. What exactly this entails depends on the specific person. That being said, it is crucial that men put effort and energy into taking time for themselves to build a lifestyle that they are happy with. 

Getting Back Out Into the Dating World (Know What’s Right for You)

Finally, there is the question of when to get back out in the dating world. Once again, there is no one right answer. It is entirely reasonable to start dating almost immediately after separation. On the other hand, it is always reasonable to take months or years to focus on yourself. Put your life in the best position so that you can get what you want out of the post-divorce world. 

Contact Our Divorce Attorneys in Monroe, NC for Immediate Assistance

At Perry, Bundy, Plyler & Long, LLP, our North Carolina divorce attorneys are experienced solutions-focused advocates for clients. If you have questions about the divorce process, we are here to help. For a strictly confidential consultation, please contact our law firm today. From our office in Monroe, we handle family law cases throughout the region, including in Union County, Mecklenburg County, Anson County, and Montgomery County. 

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